Lovers and Friends

"...tell me again can we be lovers and friends...oh its a good look baby...." sang Usher.

Not exactly people. its really not a good look. why would you want to be someone's lover and friend?...and i am speaking in terms of friends with benefits...catch my drift?? because ultimately all it leads to is losing that dear friend that you cherished oh so much before everything got physical in the bedroom, car, chapel, or armstrong stadium. so let's keep it real...i think its time for people to start valuing themselves way more than the "values" that society instills in you through media. come up with your own standards...and dont settle for less than what you KNOW you deserve...honestly i dont deserve to be someone's lover and friend but that's just me...im not gonna lie it has crossed my mind a few times but in that time frame i was certainly tryna learn more about myself and over time i discovered that i dont want to be the other girl that he is cool with in the streets but gets freaky in the sheets. ya dig? this post isnt to disrespect those who have opposing opinions in any form or fashion. i respect the decisions of others and the life choices that people choose to make. however, i personally dont want to be any dude's LOVER and FRIEND....but i wanna be his "lover and his best friend all wrapped into one with a ribbon on it" sang rihanna...(get it?)

until next time,

Ashbash K.